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Restart Your Dreams

I have recently discovered something new pertaining to dreaming that I want to share.  Their are a few different types of dreams.  The first time are dreams that you do not remember having.  They are the small dreams, or ones that you do not consciously realize you are having. You have thousands of these types of dreams, and wake up without even an inkling of remembrance to those dreams.  The second type of dreams, are the ones you
can almost remember. These dreams are annoying.  They only happen when you first wake up and realize you were having a really good dream but can only remember bits and pieces of it (if that much). Literally within minutes, you realize that you have forgotten everything and all that is left is the slight reminder that you were just having a good dream.  The final type of dream is the dream you wake up almost entirely remembering, at least for awhile until at which point you forget.

Now let’s look at the classifications a different way. You can wake up to dreams in 3 different ways.  You have dreams that you finish, but don’t remember. Those are automatically filed away in your subconscious. They affect you, but you never realize it. Then there are the dreams that totally finish and you remember them.  These are the best types of dreams.  You had a dream, it played out entirely, and all events were closed up. So you feel some closure from the dream, as if you had just read an entire short story, or novel. You feel inside that the dream was complete.  The final type of dream is the one you wake up in the middle of, and remember.  These (to me) have been the worst types of dreams. A lot of times I left something very important undone in the dream, or it did not play out entirely. Whether this is caused by me naturally waking up, or something waking me up in the real wold.  These types of dreams leave you annoyed for awhile..wondering what would have happened..or perhaps the dream was so blissful you wanted to get to a better stopping point.

Different people deal with these types of dreams in different ways. Some of them ignore it and go throughout their day. Within a few hours they just act like nothing ever happened, or have forgotten entirely.  However, as far as my understanding goes in this situation, the dreams are filed away subconsciously, and your mind will always look at that dream as an unfinished book, even for years to come (even if you don’t realize it).  If you read a REALLY good novel, then suddenly stop reading…then at times you will wonder what the ending was. Even if it’s years later you might think of that novel briefly, and think to yourself that you never finished it and wonder what happened.  THen suddenly if you pick it up and finish it, you feel an area of completeness related to that specific novel/story that you never felt before with that specific piece of work.  Same thing with dreams, if you don’t finish them they will bother you for awhile, whether you realize it or not.  Some people can go back to sleep immediately and finish the dream, other’s can’t trigger the same dream easily, and others still can’t get back to sleep.

I have found a solution to this issue.  Sometimes it works really well (allowing me to finish entire dreams that I had started) and other types it just works slightly, allowing me to wrap up the loose ends of the dream and write my own quick ending. It might not be the original ending expected for the dream, but it’s an ending nonetheless and sets up to bring the closure that comes with anything that is complete. Basically when I wake up with an incomplete dream, as compared to a complete dream it affects my mood, at a minimum for at least a few hours as I get annoyed that the dream did not finish off correctly.  A lot of times if I am woken up by an external factor, then that factor is what I get upset with for waking me in the first place.

The solution is simple.  Anytime I wake up from a dream that I remember.  I check to see whether I feel comfortable with the dreams conclusion. If I do not like the dream ending, or It was not complete, then I start rewriting the dream, or rebuilding the dream.  I lay down, and ignore everything around me. I start using my imagination to re-enact the last part of the dream I remember.  Generally within 2 minutes I am able to visualize and feel the dream, almost as if I was really having it.  If you ignore EVERYTHING, (especially if your in a really dark/quite area anyway) and just start envisioning the same dream.  Start role playing out what was last happening, and use your imagination to continue building onto the dream.  Generally within 2 minutes it’s ultra-realistic and hard to tell being awake from dreaming. Generally within 10 minutes you will be totally asleep and the dream state will kick in.  SO it’s basically a kick start for the dream.  So for example..say I am dreaming about going to another state and buying something.  In real life I might wake up right before I give the person money.  I want to go back into that dream state.  So I lay down and ignore everything and start envisioning the area I last remember in my dream.  Start envisioning the person I was buying the item from and the place.  Within minutes I can start off replicating that area of the dream..I can imagine myself there and reviewing the item, and getting ready to buy it.  Within 10 minutes the dream-state takes over, and converts what you were making, into a real dream.

So the basic idea is once you wake up, to get everything totally focused on your dream.  Remember where it left off, and continue where it left off by mentally forcing your mind to play on that dream.  No different than if your day dreaming, or thinking intensively about something.  When the dream state takes over it seems to have a way of interfacing with the dream you were having, changing what you simulated while awake back into a dream state, and then adding onto it to finish.  This is something I just recently realized I had the power to do.  Anyone can do it, and it’s very easy.

I have also realized, very quickly that this is a way to kick start new dreams as well. The only catch is doing it while your wide awake doesn’t have much affect. The more tired you are, the more affective it is.  For example, when I first lay down, if I want to have a specific dream, I start off by thinking about the dream area.  Generally this puts my mind on auto-pilot so when I fall asleep that is what I am dreaming about (since that was what I was thinking about). If I start getting a tired feeling before I fall asleep, then I am able to go into that simulated reality state. Within a few minutes, when the dream takes over, it basically feels like it transforms what I was roleplaying when I was awake, into a dream like feeling and then continuing where it left off.  It almost works every single time.  Sometimes if I have something bigger on my mind, the nthat takes over anyway, but rarely. Normally it’s exactly what I was roleplaying, is where my dream takes off at.

The only bad thing I have noticed, is that a lot of times when the dream state takes over when you fall back asleep, it normally transforms (within a few minutes) into dreams you can’t remember anymore.  I am still researching and working on this part. I want to get to a point eventually where I can remember most/all of my dreams, and have totally lucid control over them, but this is something that will take me a while to master. I just wanted to share this break through with everyone in hopes that they will be able to finish those perfect dreams more often that they suddenly lose when someone wakes them up, or when their body wakes them up.

Walk It Out (5 Principles to live by)

Have you ever had a situation where you could not get something off your mind?  Perhaps you were angry, or upset, or having a hard time dealing with a specifically hard situation.  Below you will find 5 simple tips, to hopefully help you deal with those things, and learn to “walk it out”.

These principles are religious centered. If your not religious, this article probably won’t work with you, except for #2 and 3.

Tip #1: Live by the Holy Spirit

If you open yourself to the Holy Spirits leading, then it will lead you.

Tip #2: Make all decisions in light of eternity

3 months from now, 6 years from now, or 30 years from now. Also try to envision how it will affect others around you within those periods of time.  When you look at things within these bounds,  you will realize that most decisions are not very important when lined up even a few days from now.  How will this decision affect you once your lying in the grave?

Tip #3: Be consistent

Bruce Lee (one of my heroes) once taught, “Be as water”.  Flow with life as it comes and goes.  Try to remain consistent but allow change to come.

Tip #4: Humble yourself before god – james 5:6

“For yet a little while, and the wicked shall not be: yea, thou shalt diligently consider his place, and it shall not be.  But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace.”, it speaks for itself.

Principle Five – Rely on gods grace and love to get you through it, not your own ability.

Romans 8:28 and Galations 6:9, very self explanatory. Trust in him, no tin your own understanding.

The Battle Within

When I was a kid, I was taught a great deal of various things by my dad.  Some of the things he taught me were not remembered, others I held onto, and still others just did not suit me.  There was one thing in specific that sticks out greatly, even now (10-15 years later).  It was the theory of “The Battle Within”.  Essentially he described it as this, when I am going through life each day, there is an internal structure.  There is you (A martial arts master), versus another martial arts master in a tournament.  Each tournament lasts 1 week, and there is one fight per day.  So a total of 7 fights in any specific tournament.  The “Battle” represents good and bad.  If you are acting good during a specific day at a given time, you start winning the fight, if you start to do something bad you are losing the fight.  Essentially as you do good/bad stuff throughout the day and make good/bad decisions it affects this internal struggle. At the end of the day, it tallies up everything you did good, and bad. If the good outweighed the bad, you win the battle. If the bad outweighed the good, you lose the battle.  Essentially the goal is to try to win each and every battle, so you can win every tournament.  Essentially if you lose a total of 2 times in a given week, then your out of the tournament.

There were more things to it, but that is the general idea.  The main reason he created this theory and passed it onto me was because of my love for martial arts. It was something I liked a lot, and peaked my interest at that age. Subsequently my childhood behavior throughout the next 3-4 years improved drastically.  I am not sure if this will be of value to anyone, but it could help you in your daily struggles to do the right thing.  On top of that, if you have children who love martial arts, who knows…it might help.  It never hurts to try. Worse is they’ll laugh at you and walk away.

There were many other similar things my dad has taught me throughout me life.  But for some reason, this one thing sticks out. It had the greatest affect on my lifestyle, and the way that I acted.  It was a good experience.  I wasn’t particularly bad at school…but I had some behavior issues (at any stage).

Being the most productive you can be

I have recently been experimenting with a few different ideas.  I have been reviewing going fast, and going slow.  There are two very big different schools of thoughts for both of these. This involves both the self help books, and general productivity tips.  I have read a lot of material on both different schools of thought, and my opinion is to do a little bit of both.  You can’t actively go quickly all the time in everything you do.  You get burnt out, you can’t have as much fun doing it, and you get yourself warn out and stressed.  Likewise, you can’t go slow and take your time all of the time either.  You get lazy, start procrastinating, and take forever to do the simplest of things.  When I say go slow, I mean when you deliberately get laid back and take your time while doing things.

Instead, what needs to be found is a balance.  I have started splitting my mind up into two separate modes.  These two modes govern everything that I do.  I am generally in my default mode, but when certain times of actions or events are required, I jump into the secondary mode.  These two modes allow me to regulate my life and decide what course of action needs to be taken in what situations.

So let me explain my default mode.  My default mode is the first school of thought.  It is the most widely accepted.  A lot of self-help guru’s tell you to go slow in everything you do.  They tell you to go slow, take your time, and try to enjoy everything you do and soak up every little detail.  I have provided just a few blog posts below that are self-help related and have to do exactly with what I just described.:

That is just a few. If you went through Google, and had a lot of self-help blogs hooked into your google reader. So it’s obvious, there are a lot of people who think you should go slow. Apparently there are a lot of benefits to going slow, including getting more done in a short period of time.  So generally, I am with this school of thought.  90% of the time, I try to go slow.  I try to take my time, enjoy what I am doing, and generally have fun.  This works really well.  Even when I am working on websites/programming.  It makes me get stuff done faster, helps me plan better, and keeps my mind clear to allow me to work a little longer.

Now, for going fast.  There are times when you can go fast, and get stuff done a lot faster.  The going slow parts, help you identify where you need to go fast.  I have set this up in my mind with two modes.  The first and primary mode (mostly in affect) is the laid back mode.  I try to remain laid back, go with the flow (while continuing to maintain control of the flow), and just generally enjoying the ride.  I use this mode to determine when the secondary  mode needs to kick in.  So once the primary mode detects a situation where secondary mode would be more beneficial, it switches over.  I try to make it so that as soon as that given task is done, I switch immediately back to my primary mode.   There are quite a few situations where I allow my secondary mode to take over.

One good example, is when your doing something that is going to take the same amount of time regardless.  So if I am washing dishes.  If I do it slowly, it takes me longer.  If I do it quickly, I get it done and out of the way so I can move onto something else.  So washing dishes, and certain other types of standard work allow me to go into secondary mode for the point of being able to get it done and out of the way, and focus my attention back on what I want to do.

Another area of life you want to speed up in is walking.  Most of the time you want to walk a brisk pace.  This keeps your heart rate up, as well as gives you instant cardio.  It also allows you to regulate your blood flow so your generally awake.  I didn’t say run, or sprint…just a steady, even stride while walking.  This helps you stay focused, make sure you get to where you are trying to go.  I do not mean walk fast all of the time, but anytime you are going from one location to another with a set and important goal in mind, a brisk pace (while still maintain slowness) can help you get from location to location faster.  You can walk a brisk pace, without going fast.  Picking up the pace also looks good on the job.  Anytime you go for a job interview, the first thing they look at is how you walk.  If you walk briskly that shows you walk with purpose, knowing where you are wanting to go. This shows them an instant sign that makes them think you will be a good worker.

There are other areas you can maintain speed in.  Speed should be used in any situation where you can get something “Unpleasant” out of the way faster, and move onto things that are more pleasant.  Washing dishes, doing laundry, anything else considered work.  yes, you can make those things fun, yes you can detain yourself while doing then and make yourself entertained, yes you can make a game out of it..but to be honest the best, and easy way to get through that stuff is to buckle down, do it, and move on.  IN the long run you can be focusing on things you really do consider fun.

General Strategy: Bench Marking Based Management

I have been a long-time fan of self help techniques.  I have read many different books, went through many different courses online and just done a lot of research on the subject in general.  I had a low point in my life within the past 6 months.  Some issues I have had with managing money and a variety of other things, that I was trying to learn.  Then over that period of time I started putting together a strategy in my head to help me get through these bad times.  I was able to come up with something that has helped me through, and gotten me back on my way to success again.  I call it IBMBM (Incremental Bench Marking Based Management).  You can use this for just about anything in life.  I want to start off with an example related to trying to manage house work and keeping things clean.  Then I want to expand on that in the financial category, where I can see this applying the most to someones life.

Basic Theory

First let me cover the basics behind how this works.  Anything you are can consider the lowest point, the bench mark.  This lowest point is generally the identifier that people use to live by.  They always base things by their thresh hold. It’s the level of comfort. It’s where they consider themselves safe at. It’s the medium they use to measure everything else related to it, around.  The idea behind this theory, is to incrementally increase that thresh hold, while continuing to maintain the current thresh hold.  Then, reward yourself at each bench marker.  Once I describe this in detail in the next two or three example sections, it’ll make a lot more sense.

Example: Cleaning/Maintenance

The first example of applying this to real parts of your life, is cleaning.  Let’s start with a clean house.  Everyone uses a bench marker that they place on their house cleanliness level.  That cleanliness level is what they use to maintain their house.  If they are a really dirty person, then generally their bench marker is pretty low.  They might consider a sink full of dishes, non-vacuumed floors, rotting food in the refrigerator, and other dirty habits, a standard bench mark for what to clean by. If things start getting worse, they generally try to maintain that bench marker. If they don’t then after a small amount of time their standards and bench marker go down even further.

Using the strategy that I have developed, they can actually get the bench mark up a lot higher, and maintain it. Eventually their house would be sparkling and the steps are pretty simple.  First they would take their current bench mark, and actively decide what that is.  They would consider each area of the house and set a bench mark for how dirty it currently was.  Their goals for a few days would be to maintain that level consciously.  Within a few weeks, they would start performing additional special work.  They might take a few hours one day to suddenly do a bunch of dishes.  Maybe now they have 1 sink full of dishes, instead of 2.  Then they maintain that for a few days. Suddenly their bench marker has went up more.

Then they maintain that. No matter what they do not go below their bench marker.  A few more days later, they increase it again.  After they feel each level of Bench Mark, they reward themselves.  They clean an entire room.  Giving them a major bench mark increase, and a lot more self esteem.  Over a period of a month, their house would be almost spotless, not to mention they would have it at that bench mark.  They would use that level of cleanliness upon which they build their clean level.  From that point, they make sure it stays that clean or cleaner. If it ever falls below that, they go into emergency mode to try to maintain that level of benchmark.

Example: Finances

It is a little easier to explain all of this using Finances as an example.  If someone is broke.  Their bench mark for funds, is around 0.  They hover around that.  When they get money, it’s generally gone.  It goes out towards bills, or whatever seems urgent at the time. However, always it seems that 0 is their bench mark. IF they go below 0 they are in negative.  They want to stay out of negative, so they work hard to try to keep at 0 or above.  Whenever they get too far above it goes towards something.  There is a way to get that 0 bench mark up to 1000, then 5000 then 10000.  Even if your working an average job.  It works using the system I am about to detail out.

First off, their bench mark is 0.  Let’s assume you get paid.  You want to get the bench mark up. Generally you pay all your bills and find yourself low.  If you bench mark yourself, let’s start at 1000.  You get paid.  If you have 1500 pay check at the end of the month, or every two weeks..what should you do?  Well first you are above your bench mark.  So you go ahead and pay 500 dollars worth of bills, or whatever. Push off what you can safely push off without them hitting your credit, getting turned off, or causing problems.  Then just let your money keep coming in.  Do this. Make 1000 your bench mark. Act as if it’s 0.  Try not to go below 1000 dollars.  Try to stay above it, or right at it.  That is your bench mark. It’s there if you HAD to use it, but in your mind that is your bench mark. You can’t stand going below it. Its like going into negative.

Now what happens.  You wait for awhile, get more money.  Then slowly make your way to a 2000 bench mark.  Then you bench mark it at 2000.  Anything above that goes towards bills for awhile.  You just made your way up to another 1000 dollar bench mark, so your bills may suffer. You may have to wait awhile at 2000 for your bills to fluctuate and you to be able to manage them without dipping below 2k.  Then you work your way up to three.  You continue doing this incrementally until you hit 5000.  This is the first major hall mark.  You take 500 dollars now. You put it towards the most aggravating and long standing debt (tax debt, credit card debt, medical debt).  Then you get your bench mark back up to 5k. Then sit on it awhile. Then start incrementing up to 6k. Eventually you get to 10.  If you have a full time job, believe me, that’ll happen faster than it seems, but will go into more detail than that.

Now when you get to 10, you take 1000 for reward money. Put it towards debt, then get your level up to 15,000 slowly, then take 1500 and put it towards debt. For every 5000 dollars, you take 500. This may seem not possible, but you just bench mark each level. Go slow, and be careful.  If you have to put off some bills, it may seem like your getting behind, but the money is there if you HAVE to have it. Knowing you have a bench mark and are about to go below it, makes you hesitate and triple check each transaction you make. Also helps with budgeting if you end up eating out a lot or something else.

There are ways to make money on the side. Learn some new skills and open a part time work at home business from home.  Do affiliate marketing. Find a person or company that provides a service and try to market for them.  There are a lot of ways to make money on the side. If you look around you will find them.

Closing< The ideas that I have thought up here can be applied to a lot, almost anything. As I think of new ideas, I might come back to this post, and add new examples as I think of how this can relate to other areas of life.

One chance life rebuilding process


I have the standard belief that everyone deserts the right to second chances. To be honest, that is all.  I have been doing a lot of studying and I finally uncovered/created a technique that I used to do this.  I call it the “1 time life rebuilding process”.  It’s a chance to rebuild yourself entirely..your mind, heart, body, soul and spirit..and achieve better health across all areas of life.  In my philosophy, it can only happen once. Everyone in their life is allowed a “rebirth”.  Christians have the “Reborn in Christ as a babe” thing that they do (I did this too).  Other religions have rebirth/enlightenment.  What I am proposing goes beyond any specific type of religion.  If you were following the Covey literature you would be into the belief that life is governed by basic principles that are unchanging.  After a lot of studying I feel that life offers 1 “Rewrite” rule.  I believe that this is one principle in life that doesn’t change. The one chance for someone to rewrite and rebuild themselves.  There are some requirements in order to be able to rewrite yourself completely:

  • The ability to forgive yourself of the past when the rewrite/rebuild is done.
  • The ability to atone for all your past issues with other people when the rewrite/rebuild is done.
  • A strong willpower.
  • An insanely good imagination. This is perhaps the most important aspect. If you do not have, and cannot tap into your imagination, you should stop reading now.

That is all. If you meet those requirements then we are ready to start the process.  Before we start let me go over a few details.  This is for everything. If you meet the above requirements, then it does not matter whether or not you have or do not have a religion.  The process I have created can work whether or not you have a religion, or whatever religion you do have. If you do have a religion, then it can be added to the process. I will put notes in, when your religion can be implemented into this process.  This is an optional part of the entire process.

Also, a little disclaimer.  This entire process was created by me. It had no opinions from doctors, psychologists, or anything else.  This was a deep and involved mental exercise that I created and tried.  If you don’t feel comfortable doing this, then don’t try it. Most of this is related to mind over matter mental reconditioning.

The Process

OK, let’s get started. I am going to start putting each step in the process below.  Make sure you meet the above requirements entirely. I am going to walk you through the entire process one step at a time below. After we are through the process, then I will start giving you some background information on how to keep that mentally going as you move forward.  First off the reason I say that people can only do this one time in their life, is because mentally it gives this exercise a lot more power. If you did it and knew that you would be able to redo it again tomorrow would make the exercise a lot less affective.  In reality you can redo it..however this is a one time only thing.  So after you do it one time, basically it’s an act of maintaining the same mentality over the course of years. Which allows you to repair/reinvent the same process and keep it maintained instead of redoing the entire process.


I want to go over a few things with you before we get started on the first step.  This entire process is about mind over matter. It also delves into the deepest parts of your imagination, so without that your wasting your time.  Everyone has imagination but people who feel that they are too old for it, lock theirs away. That is when all hope is lost.

Another big thing, is mind health.  The mind controls the entire heart and body. There are people who are sick all the time, and there are people who aren’t. Most of this is mental. Scientifically if someone had the right mental security, it could overcome MOST physical health.  That is the big thing. Mental health, controls Physical health on all levels.  The Mind controls all aspects of our being. If the mind is healthy, then generally the body is healthy.  If the body gets unhealthy, generally the mind can make it healthy. This has been proven thousands of times, by thousands of different people. I will go into more details about mind health, and overcoming physical sickness with mind health later on.

Step One

Get somewhere alone. Away from anyone and anything. I took a walk during mind. Make sure you have paper with you, as it’s going to help a lot with some of the stuff we are going to need to do during this process. If not paper, then something to take notes with or make lists with.  Once your alone, it’s time to get started in this process.

Bring in the construction crew

Now it’s time to start.  First off we need to recruit some construction crew, and technical engineers.  Mentally we are going to develop a team.  You are currently playing the role of lead engineer.  You are going to mentally simulate getting together 3 teams.  A mental team, heart team, and diagnoses team.  Once these teams are created it’s time to get started.  You have the team together. Now we can get started on the work.

Shut down your mind and heart

Before construction on a building can begin, the power has to be removed.  So we are first going to cut off your mind and heart entirely.  During this time you are vunerable, and you are running on auto-pilot. All your thoughts are internally on this construction crew and this process.  They are about to begin work.

Reengineer mind and heart

The first thing the engineering crew does is shut down the power to your mind are heart.  At this point they get together a list (which you write) that is going to list out everything you have ever done to anyone, that you aren’t happy with. Everything you regret and want to make up for.  Make up the list so your  mind is entirely empty and you harbor no hatred or hurt for anyone.  When that’s done, it’s time to flush.  The engineering team is going to flush out your entire mind and heart. You are going to lose everything but your memories. All your emotions, thoughts, feelings, and especially opinions, are going to be removed.  When that is done, they are going to destroy your mind. They are going to remove all components of your mind and heart, except the mental core which holds your memories.

Now they are going to rebuild your mind, one piece at at time. Then rebuild your heart one piece at a time. Once they are constructed, you have a fresh start. No bullcrap in your head but memories.  Now is the time to prefill your mind with anything you want to have it from the start. Anything related to opinions and things you don’t want to add in, because you want to rebuild them later with your open mind.


Once your mind and heart are rebuilt, it’s time to build in mods. All mental processes will go through these mods before any actions are performed. Any adjustments you want to do on your base personality, or emotions, or anything goes here.

Power back on

Cut your mind and heart back on, you are a new person. Now mentally create a mentor. Someone who is going to train you and keep you on track for the rest of your life  They will speak with you in your mind and help make sure things continue to run optimally.  Now you should have the personality you want. Your mind is clear from clutter and you are free to start building all your opinions and things again from new clean experiences.  It also allows you an open mind because your not clouded with past judgements.


Now just maintain it. Build a mental sanctuary that has all the mental faculties that you need in order to live a long and happy life.  This mental Sanctuary is going to give you everything you need to maintain your mental health.

Also the trainer is what is going to keep you on track.  The idea of this is to become who you WANT to become.  You are who you are. But mentally you can be whoever/whatever you want. This allows you to throw away everything you ARE and remake yourself like YOU want to be.  Getting rid of bad habits and things like that as well.  Now also your list. Take that list and do what you can to atone for each thing on the list to the respective people. As you resolve the issues mark them as done.  If you can’t resolve one even after you try hard…forget it and mark it as done.  In the end burn it as a symbol of throwing every remaining piece of your life away.

Principle Centered and Christian Based Lifestyle

I have always been an avid reader/writer of Self-Help books. That’s not the main type of book I read but I have read quite a bit of them..Within the past 6 months I have started reading a few books that took a very interesting philosophy on life and how to live it effectively.  One of the books was called “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.  The other two books were “Put First Things First”, and “The 8th Habit” all of these were by the same person (Covey).  Besides that I read another book that was “How To Be Safe In An Unsafe World”.  This was a book by a different author with a different outlook on life, however a lot of the underlying messages were the same.

I have learned a lot from all of these books.  Shortly afterwards I started reading the Bible (King James Version) again and I noticed a lot of similarities.  After some digging I looked up some of the bibles and religious works for a variety of other religions and social structures.  Overall they all presented the same material, albeit differently.  Once that period of study was over it dawned on me that this was the path I wanted to try to take in life.  I am already a Christian and I have been for a long time. I am a Christian but I am also the type of Christian that respects other people regardless of religion. I believe people have the freedom of choice so I don’t try to force my religion on anyone else, and I am quite open minded about other religions as well.  I spend a lot of time studying Zen and Buddhist religions. I have a great time learning about a great deal of things. Although the main path I choose to take in life, was that of a Christian.

Based off the books I had read recently, the bible, and a few personal experiences I decided I wanted to integrate the Principle Centered lifestyle, along with being a Christian. Even the author of the book followed that religion but was able to keep Principle Centered living aside from religion while remaining religious as well. It’s a very hard theory to explain. In general it’s all about being centered and balanced. I have spent a lot of time in my life trying out different self help techniques like from a variety of different fields and religions.  It’s not as much about trying to make myself better as it is learning the psychological backgrounds of these different self-help techniques.

Based off the book the 7 habits it just gives you a rough breakdown of 7 different habits that a lot of people can use to more affectively live a principle centered lifestyle.  The first thing I ended up doing was creating what the book refers to a “Personal Mission Statement”.  I didn’t really pay attention to that for awhile, but just wrote it. After a few months it started affecting me as I spent time writing it.  It really helped me get my life focused in the right direction.

After I wrote my personal mission statement I picked out a group of “Principles” that I wanted to try and follow. It was hard at first getting together a good list. Here was the list that I developed, although I might be able to think of some later that I missed: Fairness, Integrity, Honesty, Human Dignity, Service, Quality, Excellence, Potential, Growth, Patience, Nurturance, and Encouragement.

This is just my take on it.  The main thing I focused on was redoing the way I manage time. It is called “Quadrant 3 Activities”. I can’t really explain it in detail unless you had read “First Things First”.  So basically it’s just a new theory on how to manage, distribute, and keep your time under control. It’s a great thing. I have been working on applying that to my life and it has made a major difference in my work and family life. If anyone else has had experiences with trying to implement first things first, the 7 habits, or principle centered living then feel free to share your stories here.